‘You would be hotter if you got plastic surgery’: Man Keeps Trying to Convince Wife to Get Chest Augmentation Surgery, Leading to Their Divorce

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
May 26, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Aesthetics mean something. Of course, when you're in a partnership, you need to find your partner attractive, you need to be into their looks. Now, this doesn't mean someone has to be blonde and tall for anyone to love them, it's all about our individual tastes and preferences. If your partner doesn't do it for you…well, it's not really going to magically appear. But if you're already married, then that's a different story. 

Being together for years before you decide something isn't good enough is just lunacy. No woman (or man) wants to hear their body being slandered, especially in intimate moments, and especially about things they can't control. Imagine being with your partner and you're about to be intimate, and they insult your body or tell you how much more attractive you'd be with x y z thing different. A horrible way to treat someone, and a big red flag.

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    r/AITAH • 12 hr. ago InvestigatorSea1323 AITA for snapping at my husband for repeatedly bringing up breast surgery?
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    I 27F have been married to my husband 34M for over a year. We've been together for 6 years. He's a gym freak which I don't have a problem with except for when he sometimes tries to impose his routine on me (pressure me into adopting his dietary habits). I exercise too (I'm 5'6"/130 lbs) but I enjoy my food
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    and nothing will change that. that's not what I'm posting about tho. Lately I can't wear a dress without him telling me I look good but that I would've looked better if I had that breast augmentation surgery. He never complained about my for 6 years until
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    the past 4-5 months. I've told him before that I'm not against it but not planning to get one (it took me years to regain my confidence because my mother used to make hurtful remarks about my chest like if it's something I didn't achieve).
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    A few days ago we were having and he didn't hesitate to remind me "again" that I would look 10 times better with the implants which turned me off instantly. I don't remember what I exactly said but I said something along the lines of "I know how it feels. nevermind you're the perfect size. the big ones hurt
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    anyway" He got mad and called me immature and all. Mind you he's been pressuring me to have the surgery for 4 months now and I never snapped at him. Edit: (I'm an a-cup)
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    Yesterday we were getting ready to go to his friend's wedding but I ended up staying home. He brought up the surgery again and I snapped at him. I reminded him that we dated for 5 years before we got married. He had plenty of time to realize that I'm not good enough for him and break up
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    with me to find a woman who has what he's looking for. (I do have eyes. He's right I'm flat chested but I have a nice body overall). He said he loves me and wants to be with me but feels he could be more attracted to me with bigger . I ended up telling him to go alone. I can't shake off the feeling that our recent arguments
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    are taking us down a toxic path. It's not the kind of relationship I want for us. Is this worth considering divorce over? Other than this we do get along very well but I feel like he's taking me back to the days when I would stand in front of the
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    mirror for minutes thinking I would never find a man who would like me if I myself don't like what I'm seeing.
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    Edit: for the weirdos asking/going to for pics to see if they're a handful or not. I'm asking if his behavior is acceptable or not. Not if I'm really flat chested. I am. I don't need to send any pics for you to judge.
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    calacmack 12h ago Your husband shouldn't be nagging you to undergo an elective surgery for only his benefit. He's being immensely disrespectful - which is too nice of a description but anyway be proud of your body. Don't
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    allow his behavior to affect your self-esteem. Does he know you might consider divorce over this issue? Tell him and base your decision upon his reaction. NTA.
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    Able Meal4058 • 10h ago I really don't see this marriage lasting 20+ more years without him cheating
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    530SSState 11h ago "A few days ago we were having and he didn't hesitate to remind me "again" that I would look 10 times better with the implants which turned me off instantly."
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    Imagine being the kind of who thinks it's OK to insult their spouse's body DURING
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    GoGetSilverBalls • 11h ago My first husband talked to me about this same thing. I said no. He then had his best friend call me...AT WORK...to ask why I wouldn't agree to it. Divorce followed promptly.
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    530SSState ⚫ 11h ago My heart goes out to you for having to put up with this kind of insult. He sounds like a real
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    Also, the timing of this pings my radar. You were fine for 6 years, and all of a sudden he has a problem with your body starting 4 months ago? New co-worker with a big rack, perhaps?
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    Sunny-SJ 11h ago He tells you quite regularly that he finds you lacking. He even goes as far as to bring this up during . This is not the actions of a respectful loving spouse. You were well within your rights to make a mean comment to him. Funny how
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    people who regularly dish out cruelty are the ones least able to take it. If you agree to the breast augmentation I would willingly bet a large sum of money there will be something else that he will want you to fix. You having bigger won't fix whatever his issue is.
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